Are you a femdom who is curious about chastity play? Do you want tips and tricks to add to your femdom arsenal to dominate your sub sexually?
Chastity play can be part of the power exchange relationship between a female dominant and her male submissive. It is a way to control how, when, and how often he gets turned on, masturbates, engages in foreplay and intercourse, and ejaculates and orgasms.
There are so many ways to engage in femdom chastity that will keep a sub guessing what your next move is. This type of play can enhance any femdom relationship.
Just a reminder that chastity play only works well when the play is consensual. Now… let the games begin!
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10 Femdom Chastity Ideas
1. Teasing Texts and Dirty Talk
Femdom chastity will often involve teasing as a tortuous way of turning her sub on with nowhere to go aka get off. Sending sexy texts that tease the forbidden fruit can bring pleasure to both of you.
When you’re together, you can share your sexual desires and fantasies that may involve him or other men, stories about the guy who just fucked you so hard that you don’t need another throbbing, yearning cock inside you. Ouch.
Read: Hotwife Texts: Messages to Send to your Cuckold or Hotwife
2. Chastity Devices
There are many chastity devices for femdoms to make use of in their domination games. Chastity belts and cages will keep a sub’s junk under wraps, so he is unable to touch or resist what is off limits. These are often used in master/slave type relationships where absolute control is used.
You can mutually decide how long a device is worn, whether it is while together or apart, in public or at home. Have your sub wear a cage while you bump and grind mercilessly against him naked.
Read: Male Chastity Play and Cock Locking Devices
3. Keyholder Chastity
Chastity devices often come with a key and can be played with similar to other BDSM gear like handcuffs. Sometimes the man is given access to the key, but it is often the femdom who is the keyholder.
It is important to place one key in a safe and accessible place while the other can be worn by the femdom, on a necklace or bracelet, to remind her sub of who is ultimately in charge. The key represents her power and control, his submission and denial.
4. Orgasm Edging and Denial
Femdom chastity play often uses some form of orgasm control that involves edging and denial. The femdom will take great delight in pleasuring her sub through manual or oral stimulation, to get him hard and dripping, only to stop short of orgasm. This edging is repeated as often as she wishes.
Tie your sub spread eagle to the bed before you seductively walk around, surveying your playground. Use sensory objects to stroke his naked body before using your hand or mouth. Bring him to the brink before backing off. See how many times he can take it before he begs you to stop. Edging involves anticipation and pleasure, but in chastity play the orgasm is denied.
Read: Orgasm Denial: 8 Games and Ways to Play
5. Ruined Orgasms
Ruined orgasm is about getting to the point of orgasm and then ruining it. A femdom can ruin her sub’s orgasm by stopping suddenly, overstimulating past the orgasm, or saying something to dull or ruin the entire moment. Most people will find it difficult to rebuild an orgasm for some time after.
The next time you do let your sub stray from his chaste place, ride him hard until he orgasms, but instead of getting off, keep riding until he can’t take it anymore. Or when he comes, press your palm against his penis to hold it down.
Read: How to Ruin an Orgasm in the Name of Kink
6. Chastity Pegging
Denying your sub sex may only include vaginal and oral. A femdom may gladly make room for some intense pegging sessions that involve a strap-on cock that she will penetrate with.
Command your sub to kneel on all fours on the bed, with or without his cock inside his chastity cage. Lube and massage his ass before spanking it, and when he’s least expecting it dive right in with your massive cock. Get in airplane position, lying over his back, arms stretched out. The sky’s the limit!
Read: Femdom Pegging: 15 Ways to Supercharge Strap-on Sex
7. Watching You Masturbate
Men love watching women masturbate because it is seen as sacred and something most women do in private. A femdom will have no qualms about putting her fingers to her pussy for her sub to watch, as long as he’s only watching.
Tie your submissive lover up so he can’t touch his penis while he watches you touch yourself. Watch him ache and wriggle as he longs to touch his hardening shaft. Best to put a cage on that cock, just in case.
Read: 6 Tips to Spice Up Your Masturbation
8. Cuckold Chastity
In cuckold chastity play, not only is the male sub not given permission to masturbate or have sex with his femdom beauty, but he will be forced to hear stories of her sexual escapades with other men or worse… forced to watch the action from the sidelines.
Invite your hot and hung boy toy over to show your cuckold submissive how it’s done. He will likely need to be restrained and kept under lock and key. A few words of humiliation are the icing on this cuckold cake!
Read: Cuckold Humiliation Ideas: How to Humiliate a Cuck
9. Oral Sex in Chastity
While chastity often excludes all kinds of sexual interactions, a femdom may still want the oral services of her submissive. He may be expected to lick and eat her pussy at a specified time daily or spontaneously at her command. She may want a facesitting session or to perch in her queening chair for some devoted attention.
Lock the cock before having your sub kneel before you for pussy pleasure. Let him know that there will be no reciprocal oral pleasure for him, that he must remain chaste and wanting.
Read: Femdom Facesitting: 15 Ideas for Queening Like a Domme
10. CBT Play
Sometimes the act of being chaste won’t be enough to satisfy a femdom. She may also want to remind her sub that his genitals also exist for her torturous pleasure. She may like to squeeze and pinch and spank his cock and balls until he squeals… and being the good boy you are, you will submit.
After a long period of chastity, slowly seduce your sub while tied up. Edge him over and over, promising to let him come. Squeeze his balls and slap his cock, teasing that orgasm. And once he does come, use his cum to keep rubbing up and down over the cap until he cries for you to stop.
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