Why Spanking and BDSM Go Hand in Hand
Spanking has always been viewed as a form of discipline and an action that causes pain, and this is why it fits so well into BDSM relationships and practices.
Dominants have been using BDSM spanking to discipline or humiliate submissives forever, and also as a way to bring pleasure to their subs.
Spanking not only “teaches a lesson” through the pain administered, which many people enjoy, but spanking also activates nerve endings that ignite sexual stimulation.
Spanking has so many variations and can take place in a kink lite way or something involving hardcore BDSM play.
You don’t have to identify as a dom(me) or sub to enjoy BDSM spanking with your lovers. You can just be in the exploratory phase or your relationship or having a one night stand to have fun with spanking.
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Spanking as foreplay works wonders to make a man hard or a woman wet. It’s almost impossible not to be aroused because of the physiology that involves those awesome nerve endings found in our erogenous zones.
10 Types of BDSM Spankings
1. Foreplay Spanking
You can enjoy spanking as foreplay clothed, half-clothed, or fully naked. It can be part of kinky D/s role plays, like teacher-student or boss-secretary. You can use just your hand or experiment with an array of spanking tools and equipment.
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2. Punishment Spanking
Spanking may be an isolated act where nothing physical or sexual precedes or follows. Punishment spanking often takes place when a submissive has displeased their dom(me) in some way.
A dom may use spanking when a sub tries to top from the bottom, fails to perform a daily task, or comes up short in some other sort of expected service. Punishment spanking may also be found in BDSM contracts, outlining the when, why, and how it will take place.
3. Maintenance Spanking
Maintenance spanking happens regularly, often on a set day and maybe even time, as a way to remind a submissive who is in charge. Both dom and sub will know when and how long spankings will be.
This type of BDSM spanking helps to maintain the status quo in the relationship. A maintenance spanking is not usually harsh or lengthy, but seen as a weekly or daily ritual.
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4. Therapy Spanking
On the flip side of using spanking as a form of punishment, there is therapy spanking which is usually more gentle in nature.
Spanking can feel soothing and calming and caring if done in a loving way. Like many BDSM practices, spanking need not be full-on and full-force. Perhaps the dom(me) rubs his palm in a circular motion before administering each therapeutic spank.
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5. Roleplay Spanking
Spanking was made for BDSM roleplay. Most kinky roleplaying involves dom and sub roles where the dom will exert his or her power verbally, physically, or sexually.
When the sub character (role) needs discipline, spanking is readily available because it doesn’t need props, accessories, or toys. Have hand, will spank. But of course, role plays are always much more fun when you add extras like costumes and blindfolds and sex toys!
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6. Femdom Spanking
When the woman in the relationship is the dominant, the practice is often called femdom spanking. When her sub needs a reminder of who wears the pants, she will often use spanking.
This kind of BDSM spanking can also be used in degradation play with crossover kinks like small penis humiliation (SPH) or the clothed-female naked-male (CFNM) kink.
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7. Bondage Spanking
Just like a lot of BDSM practices, spanking can be supercharged when you add other kinky elements. Bondage spanking puts your submissive into an even more vulnerable position, where they have less or no wiggle room to flinch or move away.
Bondage and discipline of any kind requires a lot of trust between the dominant and submissive before taking place to feel safe enough to engage, but once it’s there, this can be a very intimate exchange.
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8. MDLB and DDLG Spanking
Mommy Dom Little Boy (MDLB) relationships almost always employ spanking for pain and sometimes pleasure. Mommies expect reverence, respect, and obedience from their little boys in this power exchange relationship, and spanking is a way to enforce these expectations or discipline when necessary.
Daddy Dom Little Girl (DDLG) relationships also use spanking as a means of discipline. DDLG spanking may be more ritualistic and loving in nature, or it may be used when the woman has been a “bad little girl,” and needs to lay over Daddy’s lap for a spanking session.
9. Spanking with Implements
While the hand is perhaps the best BDSM spanking implement to use because you can feel directly how much pain or pleasure you are handing out, so to speak, there are so many spanking tools to choose from.
Paddles, whips, canes, floggers are just a few that you will find in your local BDSM toy store or online shops. If you’re on a budget, take a stroll through your home to find suitable objects like wooden spoons, hairbrushes, rolled-up magazines, and belts.
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10. Self-Spanking
If you love being spanked but you don’t have someone to spank you, all is not lost. There are many kink lovers who find a way to enjoy their favorite BDSM practices solo, spanking included.
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You can use your hand or go-to spanking implement to self-spank. To make the session more “real” or arousing, you can film it on your phone, dirty talk to yourself, watch porn at the same time, or do it in front of a mirror to watch your buttocks turn red.
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