As communities have more open discussions about non-monogamous relationship styles, and are also breaking down the long-held taboos about kinks and fetishes, a few non-monogamy kinks and lifestyles have become incredibly popular in recent years.
The world of the stag and vixen is a kink, sexual practice or lifestyle that involves a specific type of non-monogamy. It is related to hotwifing and has things in common with cuckolding, but differs dramatically from cuckolding in psychology.
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What Is the Stag and Vixen Lifestyle?
Stag and vixen are terms given to an attractive, sexually satisfied couple where the vixen has other lovers, usually male but sometimes other women.
The vixen’s husband or mate, the stag, does not have other lovers. She loves the attention of showing off her beauty and sex appeal, and he loves the attention she receives.
The stag is aroused by the reminder of how hot his vixen is, and gets even more excited by the thought of her having sex with other men. He wants to help her flirt, choose, seduce, plan, and court other men, called her bulls. It is for her satisfaction and also for his.
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The vixen’s relationship is with her stag. Her relationship with bulls is limited to casual sexual encounters, or to ongoing no-strings-attached sex.
The stag will later hear every detail in narration about the sex she has. Often, she and her bull have sex while her stag watches, or listens from the next room. The stag may join in.
Usually, the primary relationship is cemented after she has sex with a bull, and the vixen and stag affirm their attraction in the heady chemical heat of fresh sex hormones and pheromones.
Why Stag and Vixen Sex is Hot
The taboo of females being the one to step out is one reason.
Being very attractive and tending to that attractiveness is another.
The constant anticipation involved in meeting someone new, not knowing how it will end up, flirtation and seduction is yet another.
Imagining your wife with another man is an age-old cock hardener.
Watching her with another man, uninhibited and beautiful, is scorching hot.
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Knowing she can have any man she wants, but comes home to you, is another jolt of adrenaline and affirmation.
The actual biochemical soup of sex that surrounds her after she gets fucked by a bull ratchets up the impact of excitement.
The stag and vixen lifestyle is uniquely intimate and builds an intense bond and trust. The ultimate liberation is total sexual liberation with total security.
The idea of your wife as a very sexual person who has casual encounters for her own pleasure and also for yours is another reason the stag and vixen relationship is so hot!
Stag and Vixen is Not Cuckolding
Cuckolding and hotwifing and stag and vixen lifestyles are frequently discussed together.
This is because they are all non-monogamous lifestyles that involve the female with other lovers.
Both the cuckolding fetish and the stag and vixen lifestyle involve a husband or male partner who gets off on seeing his wife with other men. However, their psychologies are polar opposites.
For a cuckold, the erotic thrill is in the sense of humiliation at seeing his wife with another man, based on the idea that he cannot possibly fulfill her sexual needs. She requires a bull who is hotter, fitter, younger, richer, more virile, and better endowed. The idea that she is running around because he is not man enough to satisfy her needs is humiliating.
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Cuckolding is a kind of femdom relationship where the male is submissive or at least, enjoys sexual humiliation. Watching her with another man is humiliating and exciting.
The stag and vixen also enjoy the thrill of her hooking up with a bull—not because the stag feels humiliated, but because his wife is so hot, and he is so secure in their relationship, that they can both enjoy the considerable thrill of her having sex with another man.
The vixen does not run around “behind his back” but with his help. He admires her beauty, flirtation, seduction, and sexuality, and wants to hear all about it or watch it.
Although stag and vixen and cuckolding both appear female led, a stag is actually a kind of dominant, who permits and has hands on each situation. The vixen may direct things but never at his expense and only for his pleasure.
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Stag and Vixen vs Hotwifing
Stag and vixen is a subset of the hotwifing lifestyle. They are very similar. In hotwifing, a husband gets off on the fact that his wife is hot, attractive to other men, and that she has sex with other men.
Typically, in the stag and vixen subset, the stag and vixen are totally “in it together.” She doesn’t hook up with other guys without him knowing, or have sex with her bulls whenever she wants while he’s at work.
The vixen is allowed, yes, but her sexual relationships with others is not separate from her stag—he is involved in planning and preparation, seduction, and benefits from her encounters. He is involved sexually, before, during and after.
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Stag and Vixen Relationship Tips
A stag and vixen relationship involves a very secure male and a very attractive woman, who are typically madly in love, totally open, and have a deep erotic and emotional bond.
If that is where you are, or where you are headed, keep working on your relationship with the goal of total trust and security.
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Communication, confidence, honesty, total acceptance, respect, and the desire to listen to each other and totally please each other sexually are important aspects of the stag and vixen lifestyle.
Aspects of this lifestyle can be played out as individual sex episodes. You can explore stag and vixen fantasies together to see where they go. You can arrange for her to hook up with a bull while you watch, enjoy the thrill of voyeurism while she enjoys the thrill of exhibitionism and the performative aspect.
This will be “exhibitionism and voyeurism” or “watching my girlfriend with another man” rather than stag and vixen if the base psychology isn’t there. And that psychology is dependent on the relationship of the stag and the vixen.
Becoming fully transparent and totally devoted to each other’s pleasure, while nurturing trust and communication is an ongoing journey. Start by committing to continue growing together, putting each other first, and sharing all of your fantasies as you grow.
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