There are now more sites for S&M dating than ever before. Meeting kinky people in the BDSM community is now easier and more pain-free (unless that’s your thing), and the choices available are ever expanding.
Let me help you wade through the many S&M dating sites to help you find your perfect fit!
As we all know that S&M stands for sadism and masochism, I’m going to focus on sites that are best for finding like-minded partners. Many of these sites are also ideal for fetishists; and at the end of this post, I’ll add more links to kink dating sites for those with specific interests.
S&M sites are getting more and more niche, making it easier for members to find what, and who, they’re looking for. Find the S&M dating site that matches your preferences and enjoy!
Top S&M Dating Sites
BDSMDate.com
A lot of sites claim that they are the largest for S&M dating; but BDSM Date really does have the most members. They use the same technology as Alt (see below), and have been building their member base and awesome features for over a decade.
Want to video chat with that dominatrix before hooking up? Want to share your webcam across the site? Want to meet thousands of locals ready for kinky fun? This is the place.
Create a profile and enjoy all the benefits, which include S&M chat rooms, member webcams, instant messenger, as well as groups and blogs. And when you meet someone you want to know better, you can upgrade and get started with live and in-person fun.
BDSMSingles.com
This is another popular site in the BDSM dating universe. A few of their stand-out features include profiles that encourage members to share more detailed information, the invisible mode option, and the ability to search through all the profiles with free membership.
Full memberships are priced competitively, with a monthly fee costing less than a night out trying to pick up kinky folks at the bar. Want more details? Read my BDSMSingles review.
Honorable Mentions for S&M Dating
Bondage.com
Bondage is another site that goes way back and enjoys the popularity that only a long-existing site can manage. As you can tell by the name, bondage is the primary interest here but members do have varied tastes. For those with a bondage kink, you can find more suggestions here: Best Bondage Dating Sites for BDSM Lovers
Alt.com
Alt is among the best for membership numbers, amazing features, and for their true communities of S&M enthusiasts. I left them out of my top three because they’re built upon the same backend as BDSMDate.com, and I wanted to list three unique sites in my top 3. Either of these are also a great choice for finding bdsm partners near you.
Foot Fetish Dating Sites and More
To give you a sampling of how specific dating sites are becoming, here a few more links that cater directly to tastes within the S&M community. Note: you can find fetishists on the sites above, but if you’d like to join a site that feels like it was made just for you, take a look at the following options:
Foot Fetish Dating Sites – Meet men and women who adore feet.
Spanking Dating Sites – Join this site if you want to give or receive a spanking.
Pegging Dating Sites – Meet others who like to have fun with strap-ons.
Pantyhose Dating Sites – Browse this site for other pantyhose fetishists.
Don’t see your fetish here? Check out my post with the Best Fetish Dating Sites For Every Kink.
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