Mistress Violet is a real femdom and has been a dominatrix for five years. Submissives and fetishists pay dearly for her work, both financially and emotionally.
I asked Violet to keep a journal and share a day in the life of a real femdom with Kink Lovers. Here’s what she had to report.
Day in the Life of a Real Femdom
10 am
This is usually when I start my day. I used to be an early riser, but with the flexibility my job allows, I can often schedule my own hours
I do occasionally have subs that require a little punishment first thing in the morning, but this isn’t the norm. I sleep in because I often get last-minute late-night appointments.
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Noon. Client #1
Jerry is a regular client and has been with me a couple of years. He works in the financial district, close to where I live so he comes to my place (I only have very special clients to my home for safety reasons).
Jerry’s thing is infantilization. He strips and puts a diaper on and sits in a playpen I store in my closet. I consider him low-maintenance because he doesn’t want that much from me other than baby talk and to be held. My acceptance and understanding of his fetish is at the heart of our relationship. I also don’t have to spend too much time getting into my full-throttle dominatrix gear.
He says his insecurities dissipate after our sessions.
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3 pm: Client #2
I head over the BDSM dungeon where I meet most of my clients. This is where I learned from the pros who have been working in the field forever. I like working here because it has everything I need, and I can chat with other women who understand what I do for a living.
Today I spent a long time fitting into my black PVC costume (think Catwoman) with thigh-high boots.
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My client Blaine is a masochist and likes to meet in the torture chamber. Today I cuff him to chains that hang from the ceiling and strip him naked. I tell him how small he is and that satisfying a woman would be impossible. He likes a good beating and I give it to him with a riding crop. “Be a man!” I scream at him until he cries. I eventually release him after he begs and begs.
I always feel exhausted after seeing Blaine and yet very satisfied and turned on. I went home after for some private me time and a nap. Had dinner with the boyfriend (yes, he knows what I do), had sex . . . back to work.
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8 pm: Client #3
Dave was a first-time client. A regular of Mistress X, who couldn’t make it to her shift tonight. He had booked a “medical appointment” that was marked as a routine examination. I didn’t mind filling in as playing sexy nurse is fun. At the dungeon, we have a doctor’s office and even a waiting room where the client can sit with anticipation before being asked in.
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Dave said this was his first time, that he heard about “the clinic” from a friend. I knew I had to make it a memorable experience.
I could see right away he wasn’t a supersub, but that he did want direction. I told him I would leave the room and expected to find him naked when I came back. He was a good boy and was lying on the table when I returned. I gave him a thorough examination and teasingly asked if he would like an enema or had thoughts of castration. I’ve given enemas to clients, but only X will suture or staple a man’s sac.
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At the end of our session, Dave asked how long he had to wait to make another appointment.
What I love about being a femdom is learning about other people and what turns them on. It can be challenging and exhausting, but knowing that I am able to satisfy a fellow human’s innermost needs brings me great pleasure.
– Mistress Violet
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