Bondage Ideas for After You Tie Her Up
Bondage has become so popular that some consider it mainstream or even kink lite. The “B” in BDSM has made its way into mainstream films, books, billboards, newsstand magazines, and nary an eye is bat.
I remember growing up and thinking – Why would anyone tie someone up for fun? And what could sex possibly have to do with tying someone up? The times changed, and I grew up!
Kink has this way of extrapolating, branching out, crossing over. There is so much to explore that usually, one thing leads to another before you know it you find yourself in love with bondage play. Even as a true submissive, I’ve enjoyed tying up a few game lovers over the years. If you like to grow, switch things up.
Now let’s say you’ve got your bondage restraint of choice—rope, handcuffs, ties, scarves, cables—and you’ve learned some safe bondage techniques. And you have a willing lover who wants nothing more than to be tied up and lie helpless before you.
What do you do NOW?
6 Bondage Ideas for When the Restraints Are On
Always have a plan. There is nothing worse than being tied up and having your master or lover hem and haw about what he wants to do. As a sub, I want to feel at my dom’s mercy. I don’t necessarily want to know what he’s going to do, but I want to know that he knows what he’s going to do!
1. Play Sensory Games
This is for couples who are new to bondage and just like to have fun with their kinky play. The game is to blindfold the bound and run a variety of objects (you can find everything you need in the kitchen!) across different parts of the bound body. They can try to guess what objects they are or just enjoy the stimulation.
Read: Sensation Play for Beginners
2. Kiss and Caress
You may just want to lavish your lover in tender loving ways once you have her bound before you. She can feel like a captive princess while you, the dashing prince, only have good intentions. Bondage is often a part of a bigger story, a role play, that works to drive the plot.
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3. Tease and Tickle
Here you can find some BDSM middle ground. Tickle torture is its own fetish that not everybody loves, that’s for sure. But you can play around with it to explore thresholds. Bondage does not always include sex, but when it does, it can produce super explosive results. It’s the perfect scenario to edge your bound lover into peaks and valleys of ecstasy.
Read: 4 Tickle Torture Tips for Kinky Couples
4. Punish
A lot of people who are afraid to try bondage see it solely as a disciplinarian practice. It’s not, but it can be a very good way to dominate and administer punishment between consenting adults.
You can tie her up and spank her, with or without a blindfold. You can tie her up and withhold orgasm. It’s about using your imagination, but also about respecting boundaries and agreements.
Read: 8 Orgasm Denial Games to Play
5. Reward
On the flipside of punishment, you have rewards you can administer to your faithful submissive. Maybe she deserves an hour of oral for being such a “good girl.” Or you want to feed her decadent treats, licking what falls onto her naked body. Or maybe you give her an erotic massage that lulls her to sleep while bound.
Whatever you decide to do while your lover is tied up should be followed by some aftercare or subspace that relates to what was practiced while they were bound.
Read: Best Bondage Dating Sites for BDSM Lovers
What do you like to do after you tie her up? Please share!
