Do you crave a little more during a handjob? Do you fantasize about a woman being in total control or your orgasm?
What Is a Femdom Handjob?
A femdom handjob puts the woman firmly in control. She will initiate the handjob. She will administer the handjob exactly as she wishes. She will employ kinky techniques or BDSM practices during the handjob.
A femdom handjob may be given as a punishment or a reward. It may be a ritual between a domme and her sub. She dictates the action—where it happens, what it looks like, and if he will be brought to completion.
Read: Femdom Relationships: 8 Examples
20 Femdom Handjob Ideas
1. Orgasm Denial Handjob
There’s nothing more powerful than giving a sub a superlative handjob only to deny the orgasm they crave. She will slide, rub, and squeeze that cock but pull away when he feels it’s close to exploding. Edging to climax over and over will make him wonder if he will be denied all night.
Read: Orgasm Denial: 8 Games and Ways to Play
2. Handjob with Ruined Orgasm
Ruining an orgasm on purpose can be part of femdom punishment or just for fun. She will get him close to orgasm with her specialized handjob techniques before abruptly stopping because she needs to make a call, put a load of laundry in, or run an errand.
Read: How to Ruin an Orgasm in the Name of Kink
3. Handjob with Testicle Bondage
Let’s not forget the testicles when giving a femdom handjob. She can employ ball crushers, ball stretchers, and wraps. A shoelace tied round the testes and pulled gently while stroking his cock will show him who’s boss in a beautiful way.
Read: Testicle Bondage: Ideas and Safety for Ball Bondage
4. Gentle Femdom Handjob
Not all femdom handjobs are painful or part of a punishment system in relationships. Gentle femdoms are still in control but will administer a more loving type of handjob. Pleasure will be the focus, so she will get you there in a way that pleases both dom and sub.
Read: Gentle Femdom Guide: Painless Female Domination
5. Slapping and Flicking
What fun would a femdom handjob be without some good old fashioned cock slapping. In between loving strokes up and down the shaft, she will use her open palm to slap his cock to remind him who is in control. Flicking that hard member with her fingers will produce a satisfying stinging sensation.
Read: 6 Ways to Make Handjobs Kinky
6. Blindfold and Bondage
Sensory deprivation is a wonderful technique for all femdoms to use when giving their submissive a handjob, and bondage only takes it up a notch. A femdom will have her way with her sub, and he won’t see it coming.
Read: Blindfold Sex: 10 Blindfold Ideas for BDSM and Beyond
7. Cuckold Fantasies
Whether you are in a hotwife or cuckold relationship, or not, this is a femdom handjob that will be unforgettable. While she massages his hard dick, she will tell him about her fantasies with other men, real or imaginary. She will tell him how this is only an appetizer to the other cocks she is going to ride later.
Read: 15 Types of Cuckolds and Their Fantasies
8. Small Penis Humiliation
If degradation or humiliation are on the menu, include SPH. The femdom reminds her sub of how small his cock is, that it’s so useless that she doesn’t even know why she bothers with it. She will sneer in disgust at its inadequate size, its poor shape, and awful color while begrudgingly giving him the handjob.
Read: SPH Kink: 6 Small Penis Humiliation Ideas
9. Panties Handjob
Femdom handjobs don’t need to include skin-on-skin contact. The she-boss can wear leather gloves or a sock over her hand. She will use worn panties to wrap his cock after she lets him sniff them. She will force him lick his own cum off them when he’s unloaded.
Read: 8 Panty Play Ideas for Panty Lovers
10. Facesitting with Handjob
Who says a femdom shouldn’t receive pleasure at the same time as doling out some herself? She will queen on top, sitting on her sub’s face while giving a handjob. She will instruct him to lick faster, harder, slow down if necessary. She will smother him in her folds, squirt her juice into his mouth.
Read: Femdom Facesitting: 15 Ideas for Queening Like a Domme
11. CBT Handjob
Femdom handjobs can be all about inflicting pain and torture, deciding whether the sub is allowed to come or not. Mixed with hand-to-penis contact, there can be cock and ball torture techniques such as squeezing, pinching, pulling, paddling, waxing, icing, and more.
Read: Cock and Ball Torture: 7 CBT Kinks and Methods
12. Cage Play Handjob
Chastity play can be part of any femdom handjob. A cage may be used to keep his cock under lock and key between handjobs or partial handjobs. She can use the cage to cut off a handjob midstream if he’s been misbehaving.
Read: Keyholder Chastity Tips and Ideas
13. Degradation Handjob
A femdom handjob can be anything but pleasant, especially for subs who don’t do what their told. Similar to SPH, she will humiliate her submissive to degrade him, make him feel like an object that only exists to please her. She owns him… and his cock. He is nothing without her.
Read: All About Degradation Kink and How to Play
14. Threesome Handjob
A femdom may want to invite a friend, or two, to the handjob party. She may want an assistant to pass her CBT tools for torture purposes. She may want a lover to make her sub feel small, plow her in front of her sub while he is forced to give himself a handjob in the corner.
Read: 15 Threesome Ideas for Kinky People
15. Ball Gag Handjob
Some femdoms like silence from their subs, making him wear a ball gag while providing pleasure. Speaking in a commanding tone, she will give orders to her sub. Knowing there will be no response is very empowering for a female dominant.
Read: Ball Gag 101: A Guide for Ball Gag Beginners
16. Sissification Handjob
Sissification is one way to highlight the power structure between a femdom and male sub. The domme will force him to dress like a woman or little girl, panties and all. She will slip his cock out the side of his panties to give him a handjob, all the while telling him how pretty he is and what a good little girl he is.
Read: How to Sissygasm: A Beginner’s Guide to Sissy Orgasms
17. Submissive Pose Handjob
Forcing a sub into a specific pose or position for the duration of a handjob can be very dominating. The femdom chooses a comfortable, or not, position that her sub will maintain while she strokes, teases, and titillates his hungry cock. If he moves or shifts, she stops.
Read: 23 Submissive Poses and BDSM Slave Positions
18. Begging Handjob
A femdom handjob here is only given after prolonged begging from the subservient male. He must get on all fours like a lapdog, then whine and whimper and beg for his mistress to satisfy him. Only then will she consider his request.
Read: 7 Ways to Enjoy Your Begging Kink
19. CFNM Handjob
The clothed female naked male (CFNM) kink is a part of many femdom relationships. The domme is fully clothed in her dominatrix gear while her male sub is stripped naked or instructed to take his clothes off piece by piece. What kind of handjob follows is up to her, of course.
Read: CFNM 101: The Clothed Female Naked Male Kink
20. Roleplaying Handjobs
The femdom sub dynamic can further be explored through kinky role plays that feature handjobs. She can play a teacher, rewarding her straight A student for a job well done. She can act like a doctor, performing a painful procedure on his diseased cock. Or she can take on the role of probation officer, willing to look the other way if he lets her have her way with him.
Read: Femdom Roleplay Ideas for Submissive Men
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