Exhibitionists and others who like to have kinky fun will love these public BDSM ideas.
Whether you’re a full-time BDSM practitioner or a BDSM beginner, you will find committing kinky acts in the open thrilling. Let your imagination run wild while at the same time being mindful of others’ space and privacy and local laws.
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12 Ideas for Public BDSM
1. Wear a Discreet BDSM Collar
Collars are worn by submissives and slaves in BDSM relationships. They may have received their collar during a special collaring ceremony. The collar signifies their dominant’s ownership and the relationship they have.
Wearing the collar out in public, discreetly or openly can make the submissive feel all kinds of things—special, proud, owned, protected, humiliated.
Read: 9 Types of BDSM Collars
2. Choose Your Submissive’s Outfit
A dominant partner may have control over many aspects of their submissive’s lives, including what they wear.
For public BDSM, the submissive may be forced to wear something sexy, naughty, embarrassing—something they would never choose themselves.
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3. Go Commando
Perfect for solo outings or as a couple, going out in public without underwear or panties, is a fun way to kink up your day.
No one needs to know that you feel the breeze up your skirt or that your balls are hanging low. Some feel that going commando gives them a quiet confidence or increased bravado to flirt and function out in the world.
Read: 3 Reasons to Go Commando
4. Send Kinky Texts While Out
Sending kinky texts to your lover before you see them is an easy way to crank the anticipation. Tell them all the kinky things you will do to them or you want done to you.
Send pics from a sex shop or BDSM gear store of what you fantasize about using or wearing. Take nude selfies while trying clothes on boutiques, and send with implied or expressed consent of course.
Read: Sexting Dos and Don’ts for Kinky Guys
5. Wear a Butt Plug or Nipple Clamps
The guy sitting beside you on the bus need not know you’ve got a butt plug in your ass or that you have bejeweled clamps hanging from your nipples.
Secret kinky toys and gear under clothes is so much fun for the wearer! Maybe you just want to don something kinky on a trip to the corner store to see how it feels, and then graduate to wearing something all day at the office.
Read: 8 Reasons to Use a Butt Plug during Kinky Sex
6. Wear a Chastity Belt or Cage
BDSM couples love using chastity play kinks in their relationships. This can involve limiting masturbation time for submissives, complete abstinence from penetrative sex for a set duration, or using a BDSM chastity device that prevents one partner from touching their naughty bits.
Wearing something like a chastity cage over your cock may be hard to pull off in public, depending how huge it is—your cock and the cage needed—but that would be half the fun!
Read: Chastity Play: 4 Reasons It’s So Hot
7. Get Playful with Roleplay in Public
Public BDSM play can involve taking on roles. You can pretend to be someone you’re not, take on traits that are totally different from who you really are. You can dive into kink by attending a sex club and dress up in femdom fetish clothing you’ve only dreamed of donning.
You can act out fantasy scenes like making out in a car with your partner who is playing chauffeur. Or pretend to have just met at the bar you walk into separately, flirt like crazy, and leave while onlookers think a sexy hookup is about to happen.
Read: 9 Public Sexual Roleplay Ideas
8. Lead the Submissive on a Leash
There are many BDSM acts in public that could get you arrested such as flogging or bondage, but leading your submissive around on a leash consensually should be all right, in most places. (If anyone asks questions, you can say you’re practicing for a subversive play!)
Take your “pet” for a walk through the adults-only campground or public beach, or present your sub on a leash in all their glory at your next, or first, sex party for all to enjoy.
Read: Sex Party Tips and Etiquette
9. Take Bondage Outdoors
Who says bondage has to involve a mattress and four bed posts? Take your bondage kink on the road next time you have the urge to tie or be tied up.
Use rope, bungee cords, cables, bondage tape, and other restraints out in the wild to bind your submissive. If you want to tie them to something, think fences, posts, trees, or logs. Outdoor bondage is a great way for those with a nature fetish to express themselves.
Read: 11 Outdoor Bondage and BDSM Ideas
10. Use Remote Control Vibrating Sex Toys
Getting kinky in public can involve sex toys and accessories that are discreet. There are toys that cover the pussy, ring the cock, or are held in one’s ass that can be controlled by a remote device.
You can be having dinner at a nice restaurant while your lover changes speed on the vibrations against your clit. The goal will be to keep your cool… and orgasm quiet!
Read: 4 Kinky Sex Toys Couples Can Enjoy Together
11. Public Humiliation
Some BDSM couples use humiliation as a form of punishment for things like disobeying a dominant or topping from the bottom or not performing submissive tasks set out by a dom.
Humiliation usually happens behind closed doors, but humiliation in public can be a very effective method of reminding a submissive of their place in a power exchange relationship.
Ideas for public humiliation include verbal degradation, being forced to perform embarrassing acts, or forced nudity. These acts must be measured, as outsiders who don’t know or understand BDSM relationships may try to intervene on behalf of the submissive, even with consent to be humiliated—awkward!
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12. Sexual Acts in Public
There are so many ways to get kinky in public without sex, but let’s not forget about the fun that is actual sex in public. Public sex is high octane fuel for exhibitionists and for other kinky folks because there is a risk of being caught. You can gauge the risk factor by choosing your environment.
Pulling over to the side of the road and having sex in your car is less risky than getting it on in a public park. A few ideas for sexual acts in public are sex at night on the beach, sex in a restaurant bathroom stall, sex on a condo rooftop, handjobs on a train, sex in sex clubs, and blowjobs in your backyard.
Read: Why Sex in Public Is So Hot
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