Are you turned on by a woman in charge? Are you a woman who is not shy to demand what she needs?
Femdom facesitting is a smoking hot way to play. This woman-on-top sex position combines cunnilingus, female domination, goddess worship, pussy worship, and erotic humiliation.
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What Is Femdom Facesitting?
Femdom facesitting is a cunnilingus sex position, with her on top, sitting astride a man’s face. It is a female dominating, oral sex position where she is in control.
Femdom is an expression or fetish for female domination, usually of a male, but a femdom can dominate a submissive female partner or a transgender partner too.
Facesitting is part of BDSM, focused on female empowerment. Femdom means the male is submissive, making it part of a power exchange relationship or sexual encounter.
The male submissive may enjoy some or many variations of slave BDSM, such as female worship, receiving femdom facesitting, erotic humiliation, degradation, small penis humiliation, chastity, forced feminizatioand sissification kinks, masochism, and more.
Facesitting is an empowering cunnilingus position but is not necessarily femdom. Whether it is facesitting or femdom facesitting depends on whether the players are dominant and submissive and enjoy femdom expressions of BDSM.
Facesitting is an amazing oral sex or cunnilingus position as a variation of her receiving on her back, switching things up. It’s easy for her to control the pressure of oral sex and communicate with him through her hips.
Facesitting is hot for the male because he is “taken” and experiences her in a profoundly intimate way. It is also a nice change for the male, or anyone giving cunnilingus, to rest their head.
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Femdom facesitting can be a powerful route to orgasm for her. She can explore or express her dominant side while setting the tempo for action as she sees fit. The reversal of typical gender roles can amp up the heat for vanilla lovers and for those who are kinky, it’s a thrilling position that puts cunnilingus on center stage.
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Femdom Facesitting Safety
Femdom facesitting is a very safe way to play. Cunnilingus is quite safe but to make it safer he can use a dental dam. The main concern is suffocation if you get going too intensely!
Be cautious and check in on his breathing. If her thighs are extra thick, take extra precaution not to smother him. Many men love the feeling of being surrounded by pussy and smothered by her thighs and vagina. Just take regular air breaks by switching tempo and drawing back time to time.
15 Femdom Facesitting Ideas
1. Build Anticipation for Femdom Facesitting
A femdom can put her servant to good use before femdom facesitting by demanding he service her in the bath. Build anticipation and excitement and arousal through touch and preparation. She might ask him to sponge bathe her, shower her, or shave her.
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2. Worship Her Pussy
If the domme’s preference is femdom facesitting au natural, build tension and arousal beforehand through pussy worship.
She can sit against a wall or the headboard with her knees up and splayed, and he can kneel before her. Pussy worship involves pussy gazing, pussy praying, touching if she allows it, kissing and licking. She can easily take charge when she’s ready to top.
Another femdom position can be incorporated into pussy worship. She can stand with her legs apart and he can sit underneath her.
Read: Pussy Worship: How to Serve a Woman’s Vagina
3. Incorporate Femdom Roleplay
Use femdom facesitting as part of femdom roleplay. Exploring different scenarios and personalities can be incredibly arousing.
While you may both enjoy her dressing up as a classic BDSM dominatrix in black corsets and latex, there are many other femdom power exchange relationships you can play with. Try doctor and patient, corporate executive and employee, mother and stepson, or pilot and mechanic.
Read: Femdom Roleplay Ideas for Submissive Men
4. Blindfolded Facesitting
Removing access to one of the main senses through blindfolding amps up the sense of smell and touch, and adds helplessness to the submissive if he can’t find his way around without her permission and guidance.
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5. Forced Facesitting
Play with forced facesitting in, of course, a consensual non consensual context. CNC is when we consent to play out our fantasies of rape and aggression. Forced facesitting can be an exciting way for her to dominate.
Read: CNC Kink: 10 Examples of Consensual Non-Consent Play
6. Facesitting in Bondage
Incorporate BDSM bondage such as restraints, submissive positions, and more into femdom facesitting scenarios.
7. Chastity and Orgasm Denial
Femdom is sometimes about giving her orgasm after orgasm while he gets nothing. Not being able to release his sexual tension is immensely arousing!
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8. Don’t Forget the Dirty Talk
During femdom facesitting, the domme can use her words and imagination, expressing her desires and demands out loud to turn him on- and herself.
9. Humiliation and Degradation
Erotic humiliation and erotic degradation are powerful psychological and physical aspects of BDSM. Femdom facesitting can incorporate these kinks easily.
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10. Femdom Facesitting during Menstruation
Cunnilingus during menstruation can be very intimate, or it can be part of erotic humiliation. It can also be part of vampire kinks or menophilia fetishes.
11. Golden Showers
Incorporate urine kinks by using her position of dominance to urinate on him. This can be part of a golden shower fetish or part of erotic degradation.
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12. Femdom Facesitting and Sissification
Facesitting and even femdom facesitting is not necessarily about sissification, but in some femdom and submissive power exchange relationships, sissification or forced feminization is a closely related kink.
Sometimes sissification play is part of the variety of BDSM kinks to explore. If she wants you to be a sissy boy, or you get off on her treating you like one, femdom facesitting is an amazing part of the play.
Read: Forced Feminization and Sissification Kinks
13. Demand Analingus
Femdom analingus can be part of anal play during femdom facesitting. Demanding analingus can help the domme get off, or it can intensify his experience as part of erotic degradation, or simply if he’s been dying to lick her ass.
14. BBW Facesitting
Some guys have a bona fide kink for BBW femdom facesitting in particular. They love the overpowering sensation of being surrounded by her and are thrilled
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Queening Chairs
A queening chair is a kind of BDSM furniture or fetish appliance designed for facesitting. Also called a queening box, or queening stool, the queening chair allows her to sit down, with an opening underneath her.
The device is open on one or more sides to allow the submissive to place their head underneath her. This is amazingly comfortable for both parties and allows nice long femdom facesitting sessions.
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