What is funishment? You may have heard the term “funishment” in online spaces or the kink community lately.
The word “funishment” frequently surfaces in the BDSM context of brats or BDSM littles. Let’s discuss!
What Is a Funishment in BDSM?
Since BDSM brats are a kind of free-spirited, rebellious and fun loving submissive, it makes sense that brats and their dominants enjoy a playful approach to BDSM.
Read: Brat BDSM and the Brat Kink Explained
And when it comes to littles, not everyone is into BDSM—little space is about age play, age regression, safe spaces, relaxation, and fun.
But littles naturally need guidance and others are in BDSM relationships like Daddy Dom Little Girl or Mommy Dom Little Boy. There tends to be a lot of playful spirit in these relationship styles as well, since littles enjoy what children enjoy.
Read: Introduction to Daddy Doms and DDLG Relationships
Such a spirit within these and other relationships brings a different approach to BDSM than master and slave. While there are still defined submissives and dominants, discipline may not be about punishment but about funishment. In other words, “fun punishment.”
Discipline is necessary, but there is a playful spirit and more flexibility. More, the brat or little, very much like the young child or teenager in life often instigates trouble to get a rise out of their guide or dominant. They crave the attention.
Funishment is play punishment or playful punishment. The punishment may be real or it may be brought on by a willfully bratty brat or little who is craving a little extra. There is a lot of teasing in funishment.
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Funishment vs Punishment
Punishment is part of many BDSM fetishes, practices, and power exchange relationships. Punishment is meted out by the dominant in order to address disobedience, wrongdoing, or a task done poorly or incorrectly.
Punishment should not be enacted when the dominant is angry and responding emotionally, but when they are ready to administer corrective guidance for their submissive.
Read: BDSM Roles: 33 Dominant and Submissive Roles
You will often read online or otherwise hear in kink communities that punishment is not enjoyable, that it is serious business. If punishment is enjoyed by the submissive, it misses the point.
I disagree with this view to a degree. We choose fetishes, relationships, and ways to play that involve punishment or other BDSM practices of sadism, masochism- physical and psychological torture. In this regard, we do get something akin to pleasure from doling out punishment or receiving it. In the sense that punishment here is not “fun” then yes, point taken.
Read: Sexual Punishments for Your BDSM Submissive
Those who argue that punishment is not fun are distinguishing punishment from funishment, in a way. They mean that BDSM punishment is no laughing matter, and that weekend kinksters who take a more playful approach rather than a lifestyle approach to the serious business of BDSM are out of their league.
To each their own. Funishment puts the fun in punishment. It is about teasing, playful sensibility, and it is something the little or brat often pushes for in a playful way. It’s more camp and more burlesque than classic BDSM punishment.
Funishment is all about pleasure and play while shaping the behavior of a bratty sub or little.
13 Funishment Ideas
1. Writing Lines
Just as Bart “Brat” Simpson does in the opening of every episode, a funishment idea for a brat or little is to write out lines on the chalkboard, white board, or notebook. “I will obey my Daddy.”
Read: Submissive Rules and Tasks for Subs
2. Time Out or Corner Time
Send a little to their room, or give them the corner. Standing in the corner while the dominant goes about their activities gives a lot of anticipation about returning to the scene.
3. Going Commando
When a submissive craves sexual attention or wants to show off their body and bring attention to it, a dominant can ask them to go without underwear or a bra, or wear the slinkiest underthings while going to the dog park to run the pooches or going for Sunday dinner with the folks.
Read: 3 Reasons to Go Commando
4. Being Fully Nude at Home
A little or brat teasingly pestering their dominant for sexual attention can end up in the ultimate funishment—take off your clothes, and parade around naked for Daddy’s pleasure.
5. Body Writing with Markers
Erotic art, lines of love and devotion, stamp of ownership, body painting—the new erotic body paint is erotic body writing with markers. A brat or little can have the funishment of declaring their submission, devotion, or love by literally writing it on their body.
Read: BDSM Marking: 13 Ways to Mark Your Submissive
6. Wearing a Butt Plug
The funishment can fit the crime—give your unruly brat what they’re begging for. If he’s always trying to show off his ass and distract you from important business, demand they wear a butt plug.
Whether helping clean up after dinner or doing other chores like laundry, or just showing off her beautiful buttocks, a butt plug will drive both of you crazy.
Read: Reasons to Use a Butt Plug during Kinky Sex
7. Spanking
Every brat and every little desperately craves endless spankings. When she’s pouting and acting out, she’s practically taking down her drawers and asking you to smack her right there.
Read: 4 Over-the-Knee (OTK) Spanking Role Plays
8. Flogging, Caning, or Whipping
You can use traditional BDSM sadomasochist impact play in addition to spanking. If the dominant is skilled or experienced in using flogs, canes, whips and other impact play tools, these are wonderful methods of funishment when used with a lighter hand.
9. Tickle Torture
Every little girl in a bunny onesie loves the physicality and affection and screaming laughter inside the agony of being tickled. Coochie coo, here I come!
Read: How to Tickle Torture Your Partner
10. Sensation Play with Ice
Ice cubes across nipples or the cleft of the buttocks are an erotic staple and can be part of a sensation play funishment repertoire.
Read: Sensation Play Tips, Tools, and Ideas
11. Teasing and Edging
Funishment by erotic teasing and bringing them to the bring, over and over, is agony and heaven.
Read: Edging Tips for Kinky Couples
12. Forced Orgasms
Bondage with a heavy duty massage vibrator against her clit so she has to endure orgasm after orgasm is one way to play at punishment and funishment.
Read: Forced Orgasm Ideas for BDSM Play
13. Post Orgasm Torture
We are exquisitely sensitive after orgasm and it can be painful and mindbendingly pleasurable to keep going with post orgasm torture. Ask your brat or little to play with his cock after he’s already emptied it out of everything he’s got.
Read: Post Orgasm Torture Tips and Ideas
What type of funishment excites you and your kinky partner? Please share!
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