Do you need a break from the same-old sex routine?
Kinky sex can bring couples to greater heights of ecstasy and deeper intimacy via the never ending avenues of BDSM-related practices.
Kinky sex isn’t one shoe fits all. Some activities may be a total turn off, and that’s okay—sharing boundaries and limits is important. But do try to keep an open mind when partners share their fantasies and desires. You never know what you might like until you try it!
40 Kinky Sex Ideas
1. New Sex Positions
An easy way to kink up your sex life is to try new sex positions. The missionary sex position is the gold standard for a reason, but there’s no reason not to explore other positions: standing, sitting in a chair, woman on top, sideways, tied up.
Read: 5 Kinky Woman On Top Sex Positions
2. Share Fantasies
The easiest way to begin adding kinky sex into the mix is to share fantasies between you and your lover. Share your basic fantasies before going too dark, and ask them what they fantasize about.
Read: How to Build Trust in Your Kinky Relationships
3. Indulge Fetishes
Sometimes a fetish can be enjoyed or performed solo, but often a partner is part of the fulfillment. It can be as simple as role playing or as complex as hiring a dominatrix to train you.
Read: 5 Reasons to Try Her Kinks
4. Body Worship
If loving and worshiping another’s body is a turn on, this may be part of the kinky sex you are looking to practice. Body worship may focus on one part (body partialism), or you may enjoy pampering head to toe.
Read: All About Body Worship and How to Indulge
5. Erotic Massage
One partner may prefer to give and the other to receive an erotic massage, or you can take turns. Set the scene with blankets and cushions, soft lighting, aromatherapy scents, oils and lotions, and other massage tools for a professional experience.
Read: 5 Kinky Massage Ideas and Techniques
6. Footjobs
While the handjob may already be part of your regular routine, one kinky sex idea is to let your feet take over. For foot fetishists, receiving a footjob is a dream come true, and some women really know how to work a cock with their soles and toes.
Read: 6 Footjob Techniques that Will Blow Your Mind
7. Sensation Play
Let your lover tickle, tease, and tantalize while you are tied up. Being at their mercy will bring you to the brink of blissful arousal.
Read: Sensation Play Tips, Tools, and Ideas
8. Wet and Messy Play
For those who love to get down and dirty, the WAM fetish is the perfect kink to explore. Wet and messy play can involve everything from whip cream to melted chocolate to paint to dirt—whatever floats your boats.
Read: WAM Fetish: Ideas for Wet and Messy Kink
9. Shower Sex
Kinky sex in the shower is an intimate experience that can also be part of your daily ritual. You don’t have to have intercourse but simply enjoy slippery soapy foreplay fun.
Read: Shower Play Ideas for Sexy Lovers
10. Temperature Play
Nothing feels more fun than hot and cold sensations on different parts of our bodies, especially the erogenous zones. Popsicles, ice cubes, and cold packs work to cool things down. To heat things up, try warmed liquids like honey or chocolate. Wax play is another kink worth exploring.
Read: Cold Temperature Play for a Hot Summer
11. Food Play
Foods like syrup or ice cream can be licked off your lover’s body, and elongated vegetables like cucumbers and carrots can take the place of dildos for extra fun.
Read: Food Fetish: 13 Kinks Involving Food and Eating
12. Breast and Nipple Play
Enjoy breast and nipple play with caressing, cupping, squeezing, and pinching. You can use a light touch or try clamps for a more torturous experience.
Read: Kinky Nipple Play Ideas
13. Orgasm Edging
Reaching orgasm is great, but it need not be a race to the finish line. To edge your lover’s orgasm, bring them to the brink and then pull back before they come. The more you edge, the more explosive the final climax will be.
Read: Edging Tips for Kinky Couples
14. Chastity Play
Chastity play is a kind of power exchange between a dominant and submissive. One of you will be denied sex, masturbation or intercourse or both, while the other will enforce this abstinence. Sex may be used as a reward for being “good.”
Read: Chastity Play: 4 Reasons It’s So Hot
15. Orgasm Denial
Similar to chastity play, orgasm denial might include all kinds of fun kinky foreplay, but without orgasm. Orgasm denial can take place between all kinds of BDSM couples, including master and slave, and may involve orgasm denial games.
Read: Orgasm Denial: 8 Games and Ways to Play
16. Anal Sex
Anal sex is still a fantasy-only for many men, but it can produce a spectacular orgasm for both giver and receiver, for men and women. Don’t be shy to share and explore this with your lover.
Read: Kinky Positions for Anal Sex
17. Double Penetration
It feels good to feel the fullness of double penetration. With just you and your partner, all you need is a dildo to explore. To turn things up a notch, try DP in a threesome.
Read: A Beginner’s Guide to Double Penetration
18. Rimming
Rimming is great fun for those with an ass or tongue fetish, or both! There are a lot of great rimming porn scenes to watch for inspiration. This is perhaps not first-date foreplay, but something you can suggest further on in a sexual relationship.
Read: Rimming Tips: How to Give a Rim Job
19. Pegging
If you are down to have your asshole penetrated by a dominant woman, you will love being pegged by a domme wearing a harness and strap-on dildo. She may even want to spank you and talk dirty.
Read: 5 Strap-On Sex Tips for Beginners
20. Sex Toys
Sex toys are a simple way to kink up any sex life that is feeling stale. Dildos, vibrators, strap-ons, blindfolds, floggers, restraints, lubes and oils all make wonderful bedfellows. Shop at a sex store or anonymously online!
Read: 4 Kinky Sex Toys Couples Can Enjoy Together
21. Mirror Sex
Kinky sex need not be expensive. You can use a fashion, wall, compact, or handheld mirror for up-close kinky reflections while with a lover or during solo kink play. Enjoy you!
Read: Mirror Mirror On the Wall, Who’s the Kinkiest One of All?
22. Sex Furniture
Whether you are an amateur BDSM practitioner or a couple who is looking to build a kinky dungeon in the basement, there is sex furniture for everyone. From restraints systems to spanking benches to St. Andrew’s Crosses, you can go as hardcore as you like.
Read: 10 BDSM Furniture Ideas for Your Home Dungeon
23. Blindfolds
Buy a kinky blindfold or use something from your closet like a silk scarf or tie to keep your lover guessing what you will do next!
Read: Blindfolds, Hoods and Masks, Oh My!
24. Watch Porn Together
While some people prefer to watch porn in private, it can be a fun and useful way to share the kinks and fetishes you are into. Take turns choosing scenes that turn you on, and see where that leads.
Read: Tips for Watching Porn as a Couple
25. Mutual Masturbation
Jerking off together can be awkward the first time, but it’s a great way to invite kink into a relationship. It’s an exciting way to show a partner what techniques work on your body. For a challenge, attempt to climax simultaneously!
Read: Mutual Masturbation Tips and Techniques
26. Role Play
Who doesn’t want to be physically examined by a naughty nurse? Roleplaying is the perfect way to bring fantasies to life. Act out your dominant fantasy by playing a headmaster with a student who needs disciplining or act the submissive to a horny, interrogating detective.
Read: 4 Doctor-Patient Role Play Ideas
27. Make a Porno
With the consent of an adventurous lover, you can create your very own porno together—watch once before deleting, or save as a sacred memento. Go amateur or go big with costumes and storylines to bring your savory scenes to life.
Read: How to Live Out Your Favorite Porn Scenes
28. Sex Clubs
As ethical non-monogamy relationships and alternative lifestyles gain more acceptance, clubs are popping up to cater to these as well as to host theme nights for couples who swing, enjoy voyeurism, or exhibitionistic group sex.
Read: Sex Clubs: What Happens and How to Find Them
29. Threesomes
A top fantasy for men and women, the ever-popular threesome is a thrilling way to invite kink into your relationship. It can be a one-off adventure or something more carefully planned out.
Read: 15 Threesome Ideas for Kinky People
30. Swinging
The swinger lifestyle never really went away, but it is making headlines once again. It’s a kind of ethical non-monogamy that couples can enjoy together, in the swinger community, at swinger clubs, and even on swinger cruises.
Read: Swinger Lifestyle 101: All About Swingers
31. Sex in Public
It’s kinky and risky to have sex in public but totally doable with a few precautions in place. If you are an exhibitionist at heart, this is a perfect fit.
Read: Why Sex in Public Is So Hot
32. Meet Kinky People
Kinky folks meet up at sex clubs, fetish events, and sex expos. These are places to learn about BDSM practices, meet other kinky folks, and strut your kinky stuff.
Read: 8 Tips to Find Your Kink Community
33. Take a Kinky Vacation
Kink is fun at any time, but taking a few days or more to dive deep into your kinks or fetishes can really help lessen inhibitions and deepen a relationship.
Read: BDSM Travel Guide: Plan a Kinky Vacation
34. Explore BDSM
For couples who want to leave vanilla sex behind, BDSM offers limitless possibilities. You can be inspired through BDSM porn, kink workshops, attending sex clubs, or hiring a private dom/me for enlightening experiences.
Read: BDSM Ideas: The BIG List of BDSM Play
35. Bondage
Bondage play requires trust but also builds trust between couples. You can begin with light bondage and explore slowly while incorporating toys and other kinky sex practices.
Read: Bondage for Beginners: How to Get Started
36. Primal Sex
While sex is primal at its root, primal sex is an actual fetish. You can play predator and prey games, wrestle, or incorporate safe biting and scratching.
Read: Primal Play: 8 Ideas for Primal Sex
37. Spanking and Impact Play
Even some vanilla couples spank with their hands. Kink things up by mixing spanking with D/s role plays, dirty talk, or bondage.
Read: BDSM Spanking: 10 Types of Spankings for Pain and Pleasure
38. Consensual Voyeurism
No one wants to get arrested, but with consensual voyeurism you can still enjoy being a voyeur. Lurk around your girlfriend’s place to watch her undress (with her permission, of course) or preplan other kinky scenarios.
Read: Consensual Voyeurism: Be a Voyeur with Consent
39. Rough Sex
Many folks with dominant as well as submissive leanings will relish being on either end of rough sex. This kink can involve impact play, hair pulling, grabbing, wrestling, or cock and ball torture.
Read: Cock and Ball Torture: 7 CBT Kinks and Methods
40. Dirty Talk
You don’t need any BDSM props, gear, or toys to talk dirty and raise the arousal rate instantly. Tell your lover what you want them to do with you or what you plan to do to them over the phone or in a text before you see them next.
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