Is the woman in your life trying to dominate you, but you feel unsure? Consider some of the benefits and reasons you should let her dominate.
The topic of female domination may not appeal to the men out there who consider themselves a true Dom. Men who pride themselves on their dominant skills and take their role very seriously. But keep reading even if that’s how you identify.
There are many things to be learned from letting a woman dominate you in the bedroom.
She Wants You To Be Submissive?
Most of those outside the BDSM community still assume or play a dominant or submissive role during sex. And many of us switch these roles for a variety of reasons.
I am submissive by nature. I have always preferred a man to take the reins and ravish me, whether carrying me and throwing me on the bed, or tying me up to tease me with his oral sex skills, or spanking me during some role play fun. Does this mean I never play the dominatrix—no, not at all.
The truth is, I’m enjoying my dominant side more and more as I get older, as I become a more experienced lover and more confident individual. My inner domme comes out at unexpected moments when I slap my lover’s penis or keep rubbing his shaft after he’s come, even though he cries out that it’s too sensitive.
Read: Switching from Dominant to Submissive
With a trusted partner who is also playful, you can switch in and out of and back and forth between submissive and dominant. With more fixed roles, it may take more thought and planning—but it’s worth it.
5 Reasons to Let Her Dominate You
Here are some reasons to enjoy female domination by letting her dominate you, if you haven’t already!
1. Gain Perspective
If you’ve been dominant your entire sexual life, it’s truly fascinating to see how the other side experiences that domination, whether it’s fairly vanilla or hardcore BDSM.
It might be easy for you to hand over the reins for a night, or you might be fearful and uncomfortable—see it as a challenge, a gift to your partner in that you will know first-hand how they experience playing submissive to you.
Read: How to Find and Date Dominant Women
2. Appreciate Her Role
Many Doms have expectations of their submissives but don’t appreciate their role and all they give to it, and you, as their Dom.
You can grow as a dominant by putting yourself in their shoes, knowing how it feels to please a dominant woman – to submit, obey orders, and be humiliated (if that’s your kink jam).
Read: Why BDSM Submission is So Satisfying
3. Explore Your Submissive Side
One of the greatest benefits of letting your lover be in charge is to explore your softer submissive side. I believe that none of us are 100% dominant or submissive. We all have some of each in our character. Just think of the women you have dominated who are strong, confident, and dominant outside the bedroom, yet they enjoy giving that up in a different setting.
In a submissive role, you may discover fantasies that have been buried that you want to play around with. With the right dom partner, you will be able to do just that.
Read: 4 Ways to Explore Your Inner Submissive
4. Take a Break
It’s not easier to be a dominant or submissive, but switching roles can be a mental break for both of you.
Maybe you’re used to planning out elaborate scenes or you worry about how your submissive will react to something new. Give it all up, and let your dominant girlfriend take the lead. It may only be for one night, or maybe you’ll end up switching gears on a regular basis. If it’s not for you, at least you’ll know.
Read: 4 Types of Female-Led Relationship
5. Expand Your Repertoire
When we allow ourselves to be vulnerable in our sexual exploration, we stumble upon new ways to play.
Playing with female domination may bring new turn-ons, fantasies, positions, toys, role plays, or accessories. How you decide to submit may look very different than how your partner does. You may love using bondage to excite her, while she may ask you to crawl around on all fours with a leash around your neck.
Switching roles also makes sense when things feel routine or stale. Let her dominate, and tell us how it goes.
Read: 5 Domination and Submission Games to Play
Are you comfortable switching roles? What do you enjoy about female domination?
Tell us what you think